I was chatting with a co-worker today about dating and the subject of guy friends came up. She said what alot of women say…. "I have mostly guy friends because I can't stand girls."  I told her that I don't trust women who make that claim.

Here's my take. To start, I will say theres nothing wrong with a woman who has many guy friends. I, however, try to avoid her. I like women alot! I date them, whatever. So I trust a woman who is able to keep numerous deep bonds with multiple women. Here's why:

I'm from the camp of believers that women and men can NOT be friends without one wanting the other. It rarely happens otherwise. Typically when it comes to these women with lots of guy friends, when asked the question "does so-and-so want to hook up with you", the answer is murky at best. I think these women like having people they can control with their sexuality. More homely women don't have this scenario. Guys won't hang out because they aren't attracted. The woman with guy friends doesn't get along with girls because they won't bend over backward to accomadate crappy friend behavior the way a horny guy would. The girl friend will tell her the way it is while the guy friend will kiss her ass and tell her what she wants to hear. The girl with the guy friends also gets constant validation from these guy friends of her attractiveness and sexual power. Pretty sweet deal actually!

I don't date them because they constantly need male attention. It could be from me, the guy who's hooking up with her or the nerdy nice guy in her math class who buys her coffee everyday. Not best building material in my book.

Just curious. What is everyone else's take on dating a woman with many guy friends?  I'd love to hear your thoughts on my assesment. Maybe even an arguement as to why I should reconsider my stance!

–National