Have you ever noticed that after you meet someone and kind of develop a liking to them. They become more beautifull then they were before and everybody else doesnt seem good enough anymore. I had this problem with Megan, after developing a crush on megan, i wasnt really interested into any girls. Well i met a girl and guess what, its pretty obvious nothing will ever happen between us. But now im stuck with that bad feeling, i go out and nobody seems good enough anymore. Im not saying there bad but my heart was somewhere else, how do you get over that someone and move onto someone else. Its so bloody hard, girl who i think are attractive just arent attractive to me. One thing to notice is that this always happens when i learn more about someone. Once i develop a crush on someone and i realize i have to look elsewhere. Nothing else seems good enough, it pisses me off because im not trying to think this way but i do.

This can happen to many people.

Feeling uncertain about someone comes after you get to know somebody after a while. A lot of people take this as a sign that perhaps this is not the right person after all and give up. For others, they can see it as a sign that perhaps she is the right person and the feeling of beign uncertain can be a little scary because there is a possibility that this can develop into a serious relationship. The guy then tries to find way to maze thought that uncertain phase of that relationship and takes it as a challenge to sooth out whatever it is that is discomforting him. Women get the same feeling as well. It happens because when we first meet, we are on our best behavior. We try very hard to not slip up when we are in the beginning stages of meeting someone.

Yes, when you start to learn new things about this person, while the relationship is still in it's infancy, new challenges arises. New challenges means more work. Everyone does not like to work more than what he feels its necessary.

Everyone has the image of what their ideal mate is like. We become mesmorized by our favorite actress and think, "If she were my girl, I'll be the happiest guy in the world," or something along those lines. I always believed that as soon as you meet someone, the poster image you have of your fantasy girl will slowly, but surely, be replaced by the real-life girl who is next to you. I mean, you'll still love that actress, but you won't be as besotted with her as you once were.

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I'm going to use an analogy that will relate to your situation. I'll use sports as an example.

In baseball (or whichever sport you want to choose), when a very, very talented player becomes the manager or a hitting instructor for the a team, he teaches them the fundamentals that made that person so successful. They have the idea of, "If you follow me, you'll be as great as I was." Then when the players do not perform as well as he would like them to, he'll think that they'll never be as good as he was when he was in his prime. He starts to yell at them or gets stricter with them. The results become that the team turns into a failed project. Now, when an average player manages the team, the team performs better. Very, VERY few people can top the very best players of all time. But many people can be average. The average player who turned manager is not as mad at his team if they don't hit like Alex Rodriguez or Albert Pujols.

I guess the players feel that with the great player who's now the manager, they will feel more pressure to perform at the highest levels. The pressure is not as great if the manager used to be some mediocore player.

In essence, your dilema is the same. For you, Megan Fox so perfect, that the actual word itself is beneath her. You feel, "I'm going to give this new girl five minutes and if she cannot match Megan Fox, if she can't live up to what Megan is like, then that's it. I'm disqualifying her."  I'm certain there are many girl who posses the traits of a Megan Fox. Even if she's not as close to "Megan" as possible, she can be unique in her own style that you might learn how to adapt to. Megan is the all-time great who's now manager. All the other girls are the players who play for her. If Megan feels that the others will never be as good as she was, Megan will dismiss them. You are acting like a manager on Megan's behalf.

When you professed your love to Megan the way you always had, you were setting standards way too high and unrealistic for a normal girl to achieve. Next time you have a crush on someone, just know that she is not Megan Fox's twin sister. Play into her character. If you're not going to settle until you find the closest thing to Megan Fox as possible or Megan Fox herself, then you're going to continue to wait and wait and you'll become more frustrated. Just like those great players who turned manager. Those guys are more likely to wait and become frustrated.

The qualities you look for in a woman are prevalent to how many women are. I'm sure the girls who you have a crush on have those traits. Otherwise, you would not be interested in the first place. But then comes the time when we start to get a little more specific with each other (meaning the guy and the girl). There's that little something about the other person that makes you start second-guessing yourself. It will happen to everyone. 

You're not looking to marry someone as soon as possible, right?

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Not all the time, but there are times when that feel of uncertainty can be a sign that she could be the one. You might want to give more time to the person. Of course, there are times when you just know that the girl will not be worth more of your time. That's acceptable and normal. Try not give the next girl the task of morphing into Megan Fox within the month. It's like asking a group of twelve year-olds to beat the Yankees in the World Series.  

Earlier this month I said:

"Look, there are many incredible women in this world. If you're hung up on one particular girl you just can't get out of your head — and she hasn't given you any sense that she shows the feelings — then recognize  that's not love you're feeling. It's obsession. And that obsession is likely to chase her away. The best thing you can do for yourself and for her is to go out and interact with as many women as possible, until you realize that there are plenty of people out there for you — some of whom are capable of recognizing your worth and reciprocating your feelings."

That's the best way to get over that one girl. If that one girl shows you the same feelings in return, then great. Until then, the advice above will do.

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That's it, I think. Tell me what you make of it.

–National

ohh btw, for some reason im more attracted to this girl then megan fox. I still absolutely love megan fox though. I mean i look at this girl and i find her breathtaking, she seems nice and all too. Ahh well, i guess ill just have to get over it. I do think ill never find a girl, partly because maybe im a little too superficial. Its not something i can really change though. Im either attracted to you or im not.

You know what? i have the same probleme too… how to solve it?

I think this is the first time I agree a 100% with National.