Whenever you're at a party, or a club, or lounge, that place is loaded with beautiful women. There might be a part of you that goes blank when it comes to what to say to them when you approach them. 

Throughout the course of this topic, I will give you some ideas of what to say to a girl (or a group of them) when you first approach her. Each time you approach a set, starting the conversation is called the Opener.

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Women are far more interested in topics like astrology and palm reading than most guys. In fact, you probably rather smack your head on a table for five minutes than have a lengthly discussion about how our lives are shaped by the lunar calendar. However, for the purpose of this Opener, you're going to have an "open" mind and be willing to engage women in a conversation about something many are deeply interested in, regardless if you're into it.

This Opener is an example for a woman's opinion on a topic you know very little about and could care less about her answer. No matter where you stand on a topic like this, keep it to yourself for the moment and approach with:

You: Hey, I need a female opinion on something. Do you think spells are real?

Her: What?

You: Like casting a spell on someone so they do what you want them to do. There's a story behind this: my friend met a girl in a club (or party, if you prefer to say that) last week and she was really into him, but he wasn't into her at all.

Her: …

You: But because they were drinking shots, they still ended up back at his place. They didn't have sex, but when he woke up he found a small scroll with a metal ring around it and some feathers in it.

Her: What?!?

You: I know, right? So he took it to a store that sells occult books and they told him it was an attraction spell. So the weird thing is he can't stop thinking about her. He wasn't into her at all when they met, but now he's crazy about her. Do you think that's the spell or something psychological?

Not every woman is into spells, but it shouldn't be that hard to guess which ones might be. If she looks like she consults with crystals, has a henna tattoo, or more piercings and tattoos than a pirate, she's probably a good candidate. Most men don't believe in spells and a lot of other pseudo sciences, so even just intriguing the idea and discussing it can set you apart. 

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Here's one you can use on a group of women.

You: Hey, guys, I need a female opinion on something. This'll only take a minute. So check this out, my friend just started dating a girl a few weeks ago and while he was in the shower she went through his draws.

Them: That's so wrong!

You: I know, but here's where it gets interesting. In one of these draws he had a shoebox. He didn't have anything weird in it, just pictures of him and his ex doing regular stuff, no sex shots. So after he gets out of the shower, she handed him the box and tells him he needs to get rid of it, preferably by burning it!

Them: (Some might be for it, others against it)

You: He asked me what to do and I said dump her, but I wanted to ask you guys if that was normal female behavior.

As crazy as this story is, some girls actually side with the fictional psycho girl, which is your first and best early sign when meeting other potential psychos. Either way, the objective of this approach is to get fiercely divided opinions. While the group gets into the argument about people they don't even know, they also provide you with all the material you need to keep the conversation going.

Beyond getting the group talking and arguing, you want to make friends with everyone except the girl you're most into. You ignore her for a few minutes, but then you "notice" her and then apologize for not including her in the conversation. Then you can make up for it by isolating her from the group for a few minutes. You can do this by saying something like, "Excuse me, guys, I've been alienating your sort of creepy friend here. Mind if I talk to her for a few minutes privately?" When they say yeah, tell them, "Yeah, we'll right over there. After a few minutes, you're more than welcome to join us."

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This Opener is great when you want to add some sizzle to a group of girls who look bored. Women are almost always under the impression that men who approach them are just interested in sleeping with them. Even if that's the case, you can still turn it around on them and have some fun with it. Whenever a woman makes eye contact with you, walk up to them and say:

You: I saw you looking at me. You think I don't know that women are sexual predators?

Her: What?

You: You heard me, women are sexual predators! Guys think they can seduce women, but it's the girls who have all the power. The girl does all the choosing while the guy dangle themselves in front of you thinking they made it happen. But the women choose what they want.

Them: No way!

You: Don't think so? Think about it. If a girl ever gets mad at her boyfriend, she can always slip into her little black dress, shove up her push up bra, get her hair and makeup done, head to the club and pick up a hot guy in five minutes or less. Can a guy do that; even an attractive one? Don't think so.

Them: Well …

You: Plus! Girls are the only gender with one organ designed for sexual pleasure. And with that, they have ten times more nerve endings than anything a guy has. That's why when a woman has sex (act out what you're saying) they put their hands in their hair, roll their eyes back and go "uhhhh … Ooohhh … oh my God … oh my … ahh!"

While they laugh their asses off, keep the sexual teasing alive by following it up with one of these lines:

• See! Look at you! You just licked your lips … I should be scared of you!
• See, you're touching me, hands off, hands off. This shit ain't for free, you know. I'm trying to talk to you and you're not even listening. You're just trying to feel me up.
• And you're all giggling and it's making me feel all good. Stop! Stop getting me all excited! I just want to talk. Stop being such psychos!

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You might think, "What if none of this ever happened to me or my friends?" Well, you better tell them that it did. You have to be a great story teller when you're saying these. You need to have some charisma, too. Pretend that you're on TV or in a movie and that you're the star of the show. You have to carry that persona when you approach them and tell them these things. If you don't use these Openers, what else are going to say that'll get the conversation started and make it fun and interesting? School? Either you be tongue-tied or use the lines that I outlined. You choose. 

That's it for now. Next week, I should have some more Openers. 

–National

Atta said:oh great. thanks for putting up these tips National, i might use some of them cause im not very good opening a conversation with a girl xD

Some new Openers for the week. 

What if you walk into a social event like a bar or a lounge or some friend's party, and you see women who look like this:

Men become easily tongue tied as to what to say to start a conversation with hotties like the above. Men become more tongue tied than trying to say a tongue twister real fast five times in a row. You need some confidence and swagger to get women like these into you, and when you approach them with these Openers, you have to act as if these things really happened to you. These hotties do respond to Openers just like the ones I'm highlighting in this topic.

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This approach includes a lot of drama, which can help you cut through the noise and get undivided attention. The only time you can use this Opener is when you enter the party. Modify as you see fit, but always deliver it with high energy and act out the scene for greater impact. You should add details to fit your circumstances, but the basic premise starts like this:

YOU: Oh my god! Did you see those two girls fighting outside? I mean, right outside the doors, almost right onto the streets.

THEM: No! What happened?

YOU: They were totally going at it. One was pulling the other's hair and the other one was clawing into the other girl!

THEM: What were they fighting about?

YOU: That's the crazy part; they were fighting over this short guy, like hobbit short. He was standing off to the side totally laughing about it.

THEM: No way!

YOU: Yeah, and they were just going at it without paying attention to where they were and some guys had to pull them off of each other before things got even more chaotic.

THEM: That's crazy!

YOU: I think girls actually fight more than guys. Have any of you been in a fight?

THEM: Yes/No/Kinda.

YOU: Over a guy? Like a physical fight?

THEM: …

YOU: So you are tough. You think you can beat up that girl over there?

THEM: Totally/No way!

**Turn around as if you're gonna walk away from them.**

YOU: I'm gonna tell them that you're gonna kick their ass!

They'll likely stop you at this point, but you've proven yourself as a wild man who lives in the moment.

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It has been proven that women are more attracted to men who already have a woman or a multiple of them in their lives. Any guy who's ever been married knows the power of the wedding ring; it means you're approved by womankind that you're not only date-able, but you're also marriage material. One of the best ways to use this to your advantage is to bring female friends with you whenever you go out to meet more women at parties or bar or lounges. However, sometimes you can't bring women with you where ever you go, but you can still convey that you have women chasing after you with this Opener. This approach helps demonstrate that you're in demand, but also prompts your target (meaning your girl of interest) to discuss the "true" meaning of what women say. This helps "approve" yourself so that in her mind you seem like a guy who's got girls chasing after him and likely worth learning more about.

This approach involves text messages, also known as SMS, which you can send and receive through a cell phone. Before you use this Opener, you need to have your own phone and another cell phone (use a friend's or one of many free online texting services) to send yourself a text message. If you're going to use your friend's phone to send you the text, make sure you change his name on your phone and turn it into a female name just for the purpose of this approach. If you're using the free online texting service, you'll know you sent it to yourself, but your target won't. The message you send to yourself should read something along the lines of:

I'm at nightclub X. Come and buy me a drink and we'll have some fun ;)

–Cindy

If you're not old enough to enter clubs, have the message say that she's at "Eric's" party and how she wants you to drink with her. You don't have to use Cindy's name. You can use another female's name if that suits you better.

After you receive the message you sent yourself, approach a woman (or women) with a slightly confused look on your face and your phone in hand and say:

YOU: Hey, check this out.

Give her your phone and let her read the message and then read it out loud.

YOU: What do you think that means? I've hung out with her three times and the flirting has got more intense each time. Would I seem like a loser if I just showed up after she sent this? Does she want to drink and party? Or do you think there's more to it? I can't show this to any of my girlfriends or they'll get jealous.

Whatever answer she gives you, play it against her. If she says that your girl is looking for a hookup, tell her she's probably a bad girl just like the one in the text message. Tell her you're always getting into trouble with bad girls or something like that. If she tells you that it was an innocent text, tell her she's a nice girl, just like the one in the text and that you need to be with a bad girl for a change.

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Imagine you could convey to women that you're thoughtful, polite, and romantically in demand, all in less than a minute. You should RARELY tell women you are all of these qualities — it's lame and obvious. However, you can use this Opener to describe a recent situation where you were all of these things, but instead of telling her you possess those qualities, you allow her to draw her own positive conclusions.

This works best if you use it one-on-one, but if can work in groups as well. It also helps if you haven't lived in the same town or city your entire life, BUT you can modify the details to fit your circumstances. This is a classy Opener, so use it in calm, quiet, classy environments like a café, hotel bars and bookstores. Bars, clubs, and parties are generally not the right environments to talk about chivalry and manners, but you could always give it a shot.

YOU: Hey, I need a female opinion on something. You could really help me out, this'll only take a minute.

HER: Sure.

YOU: Alright, so I'm new here and I went out on a date last night and when we got to the restaurant, I opened the door for her. She gave me a weird look like I was doing something wrong. The rest of the night went really well, but I'm still thinking about that look I got. Where I come from you always open the door for women, it's the right thing to do. I'm wondering maybe girls around here aren't into that. Is it too old fashioned?

HER: No, I don't know what her deal was, but it's always good to open doors for a woman.

YOU: So it's not some feminist thing?

HER: …

YOU: (Smiling) Ok, so what do I do if it's a revolving door?

Laugh and continue by talking about the restaurant you went to OR ask her about what local restaurant she recommends for dates and generally keep the conversation going. For most women, you've already covered the basic traits that they look for, so you're essentially advertising that you're open for business and that you have the right stuff.

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With some practice, you'll be able to master the act of telling interesting stories when approaching them at live and jumping places.

That's it for now. I'll be back next week with more Openers.  

–National

I'm thinking the same thing, Atta. It's so easy to look at hot women, but it's a different story when it comes to approaching them and finding the right things to say altogether. 

I might go to a party in a couple of weeks. I'm going to need to memorize these lines. 

yes, lool. thanks again National

oh nice, thank you for these openers National xP

More Openers

Anyone who's ever watched Sex and the City knows it involves four women who represent four prototypes. Most women know which character they relate to best. Regardless of who that lady is, most women understand they play a certain role in their groups. Most guys don't have the same type of dynamic; they're either the Alpha Male or one of his friends, so they're oblivious to the roles women play in their social circles. For the purpose of this Opener, you're going to play the enlightened male who understands that women fill a certain "role." 

YOU: My ex had this theory that when you see four girlfriends out on the town, you can be sure that there's the "sweet one," the "smart one," "funny one," and the "kind of slutty one." So my question is: which one are you?

While asking the question, don't lead with the "slutty one," but build up to it and make sure they hear it because it's the punch line that shocks the group and gets them laughing and involved. If there are only three women in the set (like the slutty girls you see in the picture above), drop one of the descriptions except "the kind of slutty one." Nobody wants to be the slutty friend, but usually a fun group of girls have no problem calling out one of their own. Of course, if a girl proudly raises her hands and says that she's the slutty one, then you're good to go!

This is a reliable Opener that sets you up to tease at least one of the girls in the group if not the entire set. Since most women don't want to be labeled the "slutty" one, you can tease her or her friends by saying, "Well, if you're not the slutty one, who is?" Or, pull her away from her group with, "Since she's not the sweet/funny/smart one, do you mind if I borrow her for a second? I mean, it's not you have to worry. She's not the slutty one, right?" Then smile, laugh, and walk away from her.

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Here are some quick questions you can use to Open a set.

– Hey guys, what was your favorite movie as a kid?

– What's better for a bachelorette party, male strippers or female strippers?

– Settle this debate for me, ok? If you know  you will never get caught, is it cheating?

– Guys, quick question: What's hotter on a guy, a tattoo or a piercing?

– OK. I need help settling an argument. Guys or girls: who kisses better?

– Hey guys … would you date a guy in a wheelchair?

– Is it okay to break up with someone in a text message?

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Here's a good one to get women like the ones in the picture interested. You need your friend with you with this Opener.

You walk up to a group of two women. Leave your friend behind, don't have him approach the women with you. When you approach them, say, "Hi. I would like to know what your names are so that my friend and can know who we've been talking about for the last five minutes." After they give you their names, then say, "Alright, thanks."

Smile, then walk away from them. They will have confused looks on their faces because they would have no idea what was the hell just happened. 

Then go back to your friend and talk to him about them some more and make sure they see you talking to him. While the two of you are talking, you point at one of them (make sure they see you point at them) and the two of you should start laughing. 

They are going to get curious as to know what you're talking about.

Why will they get curious? It's because how your worded what you said to them. Noticed how I didn't say, "Hi. I would like to know what your names are so that my friend and I can know who we've been complimenting for the last five minutes." All I said was "… who we've been talking about for the last five minutes."

When they hear the word "compliment," they won't care what it was you were saying to your friend. They'll know that whatever it was, it was complimentary and they don't respect guys who kisses their asses constantly. They'll know that they just won you over just like they do with any other guy. They're not so compelled to walk up to you. But by saying the word "talking," at first they'll think that you're kissing their asses. But when they see you pointing at them and laughing with your friend, they'll start to think that you're making fun of them. Just because you're talking about them, doesn't mean you were complimentary of them. When they see this, they'll start to think, "Wait a minute, what are they talking about? What are they saying about us?"

They'll become self-conscious and they'll think you're different from the other guys because they'll think that you noticed a flaw (or some flaws) about them. They want to uphold their reputations as hot girls, made of sugar and spice, and they might think that image will be in jeopardy. That will compel them to walk up to you and ask what's so funny or something like that.

You can tease her (the one you're more interested in) by saying, "Did you lose a bet or something?"

HER: Why?.

YOU: Those shoes … OMG how could you wear them in public?

HER: Why, what's wrong with these?

Then you can make up whatever reasons you can to explain what's "wrong" with her shoes. This makes her a little insecure and now she's in the position to try to qualify herself to you that she is worthy. Only tease her for a minute with that stuff before going into any other Opener that makes you feel comfortable.

–National